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I’ve Never Had Sex - NSFW

Before I begin writing, I want to say this post is not suitable for work. Let's make that clear. If you're at work, close this blog and read this when you have some privacy. I'm about to get real personal here. I'm also using ChatGPT to generate some of the content.


And now I'll begin.


I have never had sex. I am, what some may call, a virgin. I'm 32 years old and I have never had sex with anyone. I've had phone sex, I've masturbated (I recently lost this ability), and I have had wet dreams. But I have never been fucked. Excuse my French.


As a society, we place a lot of emphasis on the concept of virginity. From a young age, we are taught that virginity is something to be prized, protected, and even revered. But what exactly is virginity, and why do we attach so much importance to it?


At its core, virginity is simply the state of never having had sexual intercourse. However, the concept of virginity has taken on a much broader cultural meaning over time. In many cultures, virginity is seen as a symbol of purity and innocence, and is often associated with notions of morality, virtue, and even honor.


Despite its cultural significance, virginity is a highly personal and individual experience. For some people, choosing to wait until marriage or a committed relationship to have sex may be a deeply-held personal value. For others, sex may be a natural and normal part of life, regardless of whether or not they have had sex before.


However, the way we view virginity can have a significant impact on our lives. For example, many people experience shame, guilt, or even trauma related to their sexual experiences, especially if those experiences did not align with their personal values or beliefs. Additionally, the pressure to conform to societal expectations around virginity can create feelings of isolation, confusion, or anxiety.

It's important to remember that virginity is a personal choice, and that there is no right or wrong way to experience it. It's also important to recognize that sex is a natural and normal part of human experience, and that there is nothing inherently shameful or immoral about it.


If you are struggling with feelings related to virginity or your sexual experiences, it can be helpful to talk to someone you trust, such as a friend, family member, or healthcare provider. You may also find it helpful to explore your own values and beliefs around sex, and to seek out resources and support that align with those beliefs.


Ultimately, the decision to have sex, and when to have sex, is a deeply personal one. Whether you choose to wait until marriage, engage in consensual sex outside of marriage, or choose to remain abstinent altogether, remember that the most important thing is to make choices that align with your own values, beliefs, and needs.


So where does this lead me?


I am not choosing to be a virgin. If I found people to have sex with, I would do it. I've wanted it for years. It's been a craving I've never been able to fulfill because, and this is my belief, I exist in an ableist world where disabled people aren't perceived as sexual beings. There's a misconception that we're pure or innocent like children. There's also the notion that sex is inherently bad.


The belief that sex is inherently bad or immoral is a common one that has been present in many cultures throughout history. However, this belief is based on a number of misconceptions and misunderstandings about human sexuality, and can be harmful to individuals and society as a whole.

One common source of the belief that sex is bad is religion. Many religions teach that sex should only take place within the confines of marriage, and that any sexual activity outside of marriage is sinful or immoral. While it's important to respect different religious beliefs and values, it's also important to recognize that individuals have the right to make their own choices about their sexuality.


Another reason why people may believe that sex is bad is due to a lack of education or understanding about sexuality. Sexuality is a natural and normal part of human experience, and healthy sexual expression can have a number of physical, emotional, and social benefits. However, when people are not taught about healthy sexuality or are made to feel ashamed of their sexual desires or behaviors, they may come to believe that sex is bad or dirty.


The belief that sex is bad can have a number of negative consequences. It can lead to shame and guilt around sexuality, which can cause individuals to repress or deny their sexual desires. It can also lead to unhealthy sexual behaviors, such as engaging in risky sexual practices or feeling like they need to hide their sexual activity from others.


Ultimately, it's important to recognize that sex is a natural and normal part of human experience, and that healthy sexual expression can have many benefits. By educating ourselves about healthy sexuality and challenging the belief that sex is inherently bad, we can create a more open, honest, and positive culture around sexuality.


I am unpacking my negative beliefs. I am affirming my core values. Sex is a natural and normal part of human existence and desiring sex is a healthy way of viewing things.


Sex is a natural and normal part of human experience. It is an important aspect of our physical and emotional well-being, and can have many positive benefits.


Sexual activity can promote intimacy, reduce stress and anxiety, improve mood, and even boost physical health. It can also be a way for individuals to explore their sexuality, express themselves, and experience pleasure.


It's important to remember that healthy sexual expression requires consent, respect, and safety. All sexual activity should be consensual and involve mutual respect between partners. It's also important to practice safe sex to prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancies.


While it's true that society can still stigmatize or shame individuals for their sexual behaviors or preferences, it's important to remember that everyone has the right to make their own choices about their sexuality. As long as individuals are engaging in consensual, safe, and respectful sexual activity, they should not be made to feel ashamed or judged.


In short, sex is a normal, healthy part of human experience, and should be embraced as such. By educating ourselves about healthy sexuality, practicing consent and safety, and promoting a culture of respect and acceptance, we can create a more positive and empowering culture around sex.

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